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I Made a Commitment to Myself and it Has Ruined My Afternoon

Published about 2 months ago • 1 min read

STEPHEN LOCK

EXECUTIVE COACH

Two weeks ago I gave a talk to my clients on the topic How to Finish Things. I recorded a shorter version of it for YouTube which you will enjoy.

As part of the talk I gave some advice like this. "If you have a project that is at 90% done and hanging around, you have two choices: finish it within two weeks; or kill it. There is no third option."

On the call I talked about something I had been working on that wasn't finished and immediately put a reminder in my calendar for tomorrow that says: Finish or Kill.

This relates to something I have put a lot of work into but failed to launch, simply because I didn't do the last little bit of work.

The intervening 13 days have been a slog. Lots of different work, family juggling, A-Level results, college preparation, degree results and more. As well as the day job.

And so, I haven't finished the project.

But, for the last 36 hours, that looming deadline has worked. I know for certain that I do not want to kill this project. I want to finish it.

Which means, this email is shorter than it was going to be and on a topic I didn't plan. But at least you know, I practice what I preach.

What I'm Working On

I am working on something exciting (see above). It will be finished tomorrow 🤞🏻

I will tell you about it next week. Or, if I kill it, I'll tell you about that instead.

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