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What Fears Do You Need to Overcome
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The weekly session in the Stephen Lock Academy today is about Overcoming Fears. I don't mean spiders and toy dolls (my brother Andrew hates them). No, I mean the more emotional and interpersonal fears that hold us back. Some of them are really common like:
Others are a bit less common like:
By going back through my work I have identified 18 fears that come up in coaching. And then, mapped those to primal fears that are the real root of the problem. The benefit of this is that, if you know the fear, you can remedy it. So, here's one of my main ones: Conflict and saying no: "If I push back, the relationship won't survive." I'm not a people pleaser exactly. But if I sense I am displeasing someone I find it hard to be my honest self. And so, I work on it. If you would like to come to the workshop at 12:30. Sign up for a free trial here and I'll send you a link. Stephen -- If you’re curious whether coaching could help you find more clarity or direction, book a free 15-minute Clarity Call and we’ll explore it together. Or, you can join my Stephen Lock Academy here. For anything else, hit reply. I answer every email personally. |
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